How do you keep track of all the cute, funny and brilliant things your kids say and do? Some scrapbook, some keep a good ole fashioned baby book, some document with photos. I have found, and felt tremendous guilt, that my first born is VERY well documented, baby book is pretty full with all the brilliant things he has done and said in his first few years. Now, my poor third child hasn’t had a thing written in her book (and she just turned two). I have a pile of all her measurements from her well-baby check-ups from birth to now, but they sit in my desk drawer paper clipped together for when I have time to write them down in her baby book (the baby book I bought when she was six months old, and now cannot find anywhere, mind you). Guilt, guilt, guilt. It has come to pass that now I haven’t kept up-to-date with writing any of my children’s milestones. I had to estimate when my second born hit his milestones recently for a health history I had to fill out for him, and felt awful about it.
I’ve heard and read different moms’ approaches to remembering milestones and achievements from not doing anything to being in a scrapbooking group with other friends who meet monthly to emailing themselves things to remember the kids did. I have tried each of these approaches and, well, they just aren’t working for me, and the guilt continues to build!
As I try and find a solution, I continually ask myself “why do moms put so much pressure on ourselves?” Will Junior really care if mom hasn’t written when he slept through the night for the first time or what his favorite pureed baby food was? I think he may more want to remember how his mom sat and played Lego’s with him on the floor for two hours or took him to the awesome playground and played hide and seek.
The Stork~spiration that we posted the other day was “Sometimes you will never know the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory.” This hit me, as I realized the importance of making these memories for my children now for them to carry with them forever. It washed the guilt away, and I am happy for that!
Sincerely,
From the Stork’s Nest~
Rebecca
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